How to Date Yourself: 30 Solo Date Ideas

August 12, 2021

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Whether or not you’re seeing someone right now, you can – and should! – be going on dates. (And no, I don’t mean those awkward, one-and-done Tinder lunches.) You should be dating yourself.

I’m a huge proponent of taking yourself on solo dates, but I also know it can be intimidating. Luckily, I’m here to walk you through the process and share some first date ideas me, myself, and I have loved.

What does it mean to date yourself?

What does it look like to start dating another person? You probably compliment them a lot, spend quality time with them, try new things with them, buy them nice things, and really get to know them.

Basically, dating yourself is the same! It means devoting time and energy to nurturing your relationship with your inner self.

It doesn’t matter so much what kind of solo date you take yourself on. What matters is that you spend that time in intentional solitude and start to get comfortable with yourself.

How to Plan a Solo Date

Step 1: Pick something out of your comfort zone.

First dates are uncomfortable. Chances are your first solo date will be, too. Choose an activity you think you’d enjoy, but make sure it’s slightly outside of your comfort zone. It takes guts to date yourself!

Step 2: Put it on your calendar.

You wouldn’t ghost a dinner date, so don’t ghost yourself! Put your solo date on your calendar, and make a commitment to show up for yourself.

Step 3: Make it special.

Get dressed up, put on perfume, do whatever you need to do to feel great about yourself. Basically, treat it like you would a date with another person!

30 Solo Date Ideas to Try

Not sure what kind of date to take yourself on? Try these ideas!

  1. Go see a movie alone

    This felt super scary at first, but now it’s my favorite way to enjoy a new movie. (Don’t tell my friends!)

  2. Book a facial

    Treat your skin to some TLC and enjoy being pampered.

  3. Cook a fancy meal for yourself

    Light some candles, put on some smooth jazz, and tap into your inner Gordon Ramsey.

  4. Treat yourself to dinner out

    Table for one, please! Make a reservation at your favorite restaurant. Take a book, or just sit back and people watch for a while.

  5. Try an at-home spa night

    Now’s the time to use those bath bombs you’ve been hoarding. Run a bath, light some candles, try out a fancy face mask – whatever helps you relax!

  6. Take a class

    Ever wanted to learn pottery? Or pasta making? Or polka?! Sign up for a class and learn a new, fun hobby.

  7. Plan a stay-cation

    Hit up a nearby hotel or Airbnb for a weekend alone. You can stay in, or you can use it as an excuse to explore the parts of your town you’ve never seen.

  8. Get a manicure

    A fresh set makes me feel just a bit more confident.

  9. Teach yourself a new craft

    There are tons of free tutorials on Youtube for every craft under the sun: knitting, pottery, drawing, printmaking… The possibilities are endless!

  10. Host a solo wine and paint night

    Buy a bottle of your favorite wine, hit the art supply store, and turn on an Bob Ross video. You’ll get a fun night in and a new painting for your home!

  11. Try a new fitness class

    Try yoga! Try rock climbing! Try pole dancing! You never know what new workout you might fall in love with.

  12. Take yourself on a picnic

    Pack a picnic basket with the charcuterie essentials and relax in your favorite local park.

  13. Go on a shopping spree

    Set aside a bit of cash to treat yourself to a shopping spree. It always feels good picking out a few fresh pieces in your wardrobe!

  14. Hit up a new bookstore

    If fashion isn’t your thing, splurge on a few hardcovers from an independent bookstore.

  15. Read in a coffee shop

    Grab a latte, pick a seat by the window, and dig into that book you’ve been meaning to read for ages.

  16. Explore a new park

    Walk or bike through a park you’ve never been to. You might just find your new favorite hangout spot!

  17. Plan a solo camping trip

    If you’re down to brave the dark (and the creepy crawlies), plan a weekend at a local campground. (More s’mores for you, right?)

  18. Treat your pet to something they love

    This one isn’t technically solo, but nothing feels better than showing your dog a good time. Take them to a park, buy them a new toy, or just spend some quality time together.

  19. Get dolled up and take photos

    Put on an outfit that makes you feel hot and take some shameless selfies. If you’re feeling extra daring, book yourself a boudoir session!

  20. Buy yourself some jewelry

    You don’t need a partner to spoil you with ice. If you have your eye on a ring or necklace, treat yourself!

  21. Give yourself a massage

    There are tons of videos online on how to give yourself a real massage. (Trust me, it’s a game changer.)

  22. Spruce up your space

    Set aside a Saturday to rearrange your furniture, put up some new decor, and make your home feel a little more you.

  23. Visit a museum

    There’s nothing like a solo stroll through an art museum to make you feel like the main character of your story.

  24. Hit the local farmer’s market

    Buy some fresh veggies and treat yourself to a bouquet of local flowers.

  25. Run a bath and read a cheesy romance novel

    You know, that book you really want to read but don’t want to be seen with in public? Crack it open and enjoy!

  26. Take yourself to bed

    Masturbate! Light candles, put on some music, and make it romantic. (You could even treat yourself to a new toy!)

  27. Spend an afternoon at a winery or brewery

    Taste new wines, enjoy some bar snacks, and grab a bottle or six-pack to take home.

  28. Go to a concert alone

    You don’t need a buddy to go to a concert! Enjoy the live music and dance your heart out.

  29. Plan a tech-free weekend

    Spend an entire weekend without your phone, computer, or television. Read, take walks, and relax.

  30. Meditate on the things you love about yourself

    Even better, write them down. Whenever you’re feeling unworthy of self-love, go back to that list.

Self care is about one person and one person only: YOU.

Any activity that reenergizes you and makes you feel great is self care. It’s all about finding those things and working them into your daily routine.

If you want to add more self-love to your life, come join my 28-Day Romanticize Your Life Challenge. It’ll help you reconnect with your inner self and take control of your own happiness.

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